A wedding is the largest and most detailed party that many of us will ever host. It also just so happens to be a very personal and sentimental times of our lives. When you pile on a full-time job, a social life, and the learning curve that comes with the planning, you have a recipe for stress. Here are a few tips on how you can alleviate some of that stress and actually enjoy your engagement.
- Hire a Wedding Planner. Would you ever dream of tailoring your own wedding dress or baking your own four tier cake? Ok, a few of you are probably capable of such feats, but the majority of us would prefer a professional handling these tasks. Even if you consider yourself a Martha Steward meets Emily Post wedding guru, give yourself a wedding gift and hand over the reigns. This is your turn to be in the spotlight! Let an experienced planner handle the details and help guide you through the process. P.S…The earlier in the process you bring a planner on, the easier your life will be!
- Imagine the Worst. Are you riddled with nightmares of the caterer not showing up or rain soaking you and your guests? Identify your worst wedding fears and write them down. Once you’ve listed them out, then think through to a solution. Figure out how to counteract these stressful situations. This will give you immediate peace of mind and allow you to focus on the positive and fun things.
- Limit the DIY. Thanks to Pinterest, you could DIY yourself into a frenzy. Allow only a certain number of projects and decide on a firm cut-off date. This is the date that all items will be completed and you will not take on any more tasks. Remember that sometimes less is more and no one will know if you didn’t get that one super cute idea off the ground.
- Make a List. Some people are natural list makers so this step seems obvious. For those who aren’t, “list”en up, dust off that notebook and write down every element of your wedding that you can think of. Big categories such as music, catering, invitations, etc. as well as details like guestbook, thank you cards, and favors. Keep your notebook with you so that you can write down ideas as you have them and scratch items off as you get them done. Make a new list every day if you have to, but write it all down. I promise your brain will thank you. The more you have on paper, the less is rattling around in the old noggin.
- Give Yourself a Break. Literally. Whether you’re engaged for 4 months or 2 years, do not use every ounce of your free time or brainpower on this wedding. Allow yourself time to spend with your fiance to just enjoy being engaged. It’s a short period of time and it goes faster than you think. Take a trip, go out to a nice dinner, or just have a movie night (not a wedding movie!) and remember to focus on what’s important.